The Process – Steps to Adoption
Most women get overwhelmed when thinking about how to give a baby up for adoption. There seems to be so much to think about and consider. Here is a simple step-by-step guide to the process with links to other articles and topics you might find helpful.
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Choosing adoption for your baby may be the most important decision you ever make. You need an expert, someone who can explain and support you through this process and answer all of your questions. My promise to you when you reach out to me:
- I’m a great listener. I’m always available to you 24/7.
- I will explain the process and make a plan with you.
- You are under no obligation to do an adoption if you talk with me.
- You will always be in control of the decisions you make.
- I am a birth mother and can provide the support you won’t find anywhere else.
- I will clearly and accurately explain all of your options, including the option to keep and parent your baby if you wish.
- If you choose adoption, I will make sure we find a family who will love your baby as much as you do.
Decide if adoption is right for you and your baby
Hundreds of women I’ve spoken to over the years have asked themselves whether adoption is right for them. Some women know right away that putting their baby up for adoption is their best option. Others need to get more information before making any decisions. Just remember that you aren’t committing to anything when you make a plan. I tell women to think of a plan as a way to keep her options open. Here are the questions most women want answered as they think about adoption:
Make a plan to give up your baby for adoption
The plan is always flexible. You can adjust it or completely change your mind as often as you want. I will give you guidance and support to help you make decisions about the plan as well. Here are the basics:
- Complete background paperwork so I can get to know you and your needs better.
- Decide if you want an open, semi-open, or closed adoption.
- Choose the perfect adoptive parents for your baby.
- Plan for labor and delivery.
- Learn about the adoption paperwork you will sign after baby is born.
- Decide on contact, if any, with the adoptive family and your baby.
Learn about your rights in an open adoption. I can help!
Get to know the adoptive parents
I’m really good at this! I know all of my adoptive families really well. All have been background checked and fingerprinted, and are educated on all aspects of adoption. Most important, I only work with couples I would be comfortable placing my own child with. You aren’t required to get to know the adoptive parents, but if you want to, I can help guide you in these conversations.
Here are some things to think about:
- Why did they choose adoption?
- What are their hopes and dreams for their child and family?
- How do they like to spend their free time?
- Are there certain values they want to instill in their child?
- Get to know their interests and goals for the future.
Make a plan for contact after the adoption is final
I’ve saved the most important step for last! The adoption process can happen over a very short period of time, but the future of your adoption is life-long. Planning what the adoption will look like in the future is really important. This is largely planning openness and future contact. Have a really honest conversation with the adoptive parents about this future contact before you decide they will be your child’s parents. Ask the following questions:
- What does open adoption mean to them and why did they choose it to build their family?
- What challenges do they foresee to an open adoption?
- How and when do they plan to tell their child about the adoption?
- What role do they see you playing in their lives in the future?
I know how difficult this time can be, and I am ready to help in any way that I can. Please feel free to text, email, or call me anytime with questions. I’m here for you.