Find a family to adopt my baby
If you’re wondering “where do I go to find a family to adopt my baby,” you’ve come to the right place. As an adoption attorney and a birth mother, I will help you find adoptive parents that will love your baby as much as you do. The families I work with are all people I know well and have met with personally, and I make sure they all have detailed background checks and fingerprinting done. I only work with families that I would feel comfortable placing my own baby with. Once we have found a family you feel comfortable with, I will work with you through every step of the adoption process to place your baby with the adoptive family. It doesn’t matter where you live. I work with birth parents all over the United States on private adoptions.
“Can you help me find a family to adopt my baby?”
When you set out to find a family to adopt your baby, you really have to follow your heart and trust your instincts. Some women know immediately by just looking at photos and profiles of prospective parents. On the other hand, some need to take more time to talk and get to know the adoptive parents. I believe that each of the families I work with will be amazing parents. I know that each will honor whatever type of adoption you want, whether it’s open or closed. Above all, in helping you find a family to adopt your baby, I promise I will:
- Listen to you and learn what type of family you are looking for.
- Present only those prospective parents who are a fit for you.
- Work with you to make sure you have the type of adoption you want.
Types of adoption
Before you choose an adoptive family, you should think about what type of adoption you want. Do you want an open adoption where you have contact with the parents and your baby? Or do you want a closed adoption, where you have limited or no contact with the parents and your baby? These are important questions for you to discuss with me, your adoption professional. Furthermore, I am an adoption attorney and a birth mother, and I have a lot of experience with an open and closed adoption. You don’t have to know exactly what type of adoption you want when you start planning. Remember, you can always change your mind about the type of adoption you want as we go through the process.
Here’s the process of finding a family to adopt your baby
The first step is to think about the type of family you want to adopt your baby. Do you want a couple that already has a child? Are you open to a same sex couple? How about a single parent? Prospective adoptive parents come in all shapes and sizes. Religious practices are really important to some women. On the other hand, some women want a couple who are really active, or artistic or homebodies. I always recommend that you keep your heart and mind open to possibilities. Sometimes the perfect couple isn’t what you imagined at all. Also, trust your instincts as you are choosing an adoptive family.
Here are the steps to finding a family
- Decide what qualities you want in the adoptive parents
- Be clear on whether there are family types that you aren’t open to
- Look through the photo profiles of families that I send to you
- Decide which family, or two, feel like the best fit
- Have a phone call with the parents you choose and get to know them better
- Finally, meet with the parents, if possible, to confirm they feel like a fit
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Do you want to meet the prospective adoptive parents?
Find parents to adopt your babyI always think it’s a good idea to meet the parents you have chosen to adopt your baby. Even if it’s the day before delivery. Sometimes a meeting isn’t possible because of timing and distance. However, that doesn’t mean the adoption won’t work or that they aren’t the best choice.
If there are things you aren’t comfortable talking with adoptive parents about, that’s okay too. I will speak with them directly on your behalf about things like pregnancy-related expenses assistance you might need.
Many women know immediately that the parents they chose are a great fit. As you look through adoptive parent profiles, don’t be surprised if you know it too!
Get to know the adoptive parents by asking good questions
You might feel nervous about the first phone call or meeting with the parents. Certainly, It can be helpful to have some questions ready when you talk. You can click here to see a list of potential questions. After you’ve spoken or met, ask yourself if you like and trust the adoptive parents. You can tell a lot about people in just the first few moments. Consequently, you should trust your instincts and ask yourself these questions:
- Do you like and trust the adoptive parents?
- What are their interests and do you share these?
- Do you share the same values about family and kids?
- Finally, are they loving and supportive of each other?
If you aren’t sure about the answers to these questions, think about them when you talk with them again. Keep these points in mind as you get to know them better.
Do the adoptive parents share your vision of open or closed adoption?
It’s really important that you and the adoptive parents have the same ideas about open or closed adoption. If you want an open adoption with them, be sure to talk with them about this specifically. A successful adoption lasts a lifetime. Your best chance for success is when everyone has the same expectations and these expectations are met. To that end, here are some questions to ask the adoptive parents as you talk about the type of adoption you want:
- Why did they choose open adoption?
- How will they talk to their child about adoption?
- Also, what type of contact do they want in the future with you?
Potential parents choose to build their families through adoption for many reasons. Some couples aren’t able to have kids biologically. On the other hand, some might have experience with adoption. For instance, maybe they have already adopted or they are adopted themselves. For these parents, adoption is something they have always felt comfortable with. However, one thing they all seem to have in common is that they want to provide a loving home to a child that needs it.
When prospective parents work with me, they learn a lot about the adoption process. I spend several hours explaining what open and closed adoption means. They ask all of their important questions and share any concerns they might have. We talk a lot about each step in the process, including birth father rights and how things work at the hospital.
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My waiting families are all amazing people!
All of the adoptive parents I work with are very comfortable with adoption in general. They are choosing adoption after they have been educated on all of the issues around adoption. This includes talking with friends and family about adoption. How to tell their child about the adoption. Most importantly, they understand the role the biological family plays in their child’s life. They respect that the birth mother may want some distance and that there are boundaries. Likewise, they have open hearts and open minds about what the future will look like.
As we find the perfect family to adopt your baby, you can rest assured that any of the waiting families I share with you will be wonderful adoptive parents.
I will be there for you every step of the way
As you look at prospective parents to adopt your baby, I will be there with you every step of the way. I am very different from big adoption agencies. Above all, I am a birth mother, and I know how stressful this time can be. (Read my story here.) My goal is always to make sure that you aren’t alone in this process. It’s most important to me that you love the family you choose to adopt your baby. I will be there to make sure you feel confident that you chose the very best parents for your baby.
What are the next steps?
At this point, you might feel comfortable getting started on your adoption plan. To get started, click here to create your adoption plan. Remember that you aren’t obligated to do an adoption by completing this plan. If you aren’t ready to start making a plan, you can always email or text me with questions by using the contact buttons.