questions to ask adoptive parentsWhen you’re planning an adoption for your baby, you will make many decisions.  The most important of these is choosing your child’s parents.  This articles discusses the types of questions to ask adoptive parents.

Why do you want to adopt?

Adoption is not something that adoptive parents enter into lightly. Ask them about their adoption journey and how they got to the place they are in right now.  Find out if they want an open, closed or semi-open adoption.

What were the best parts of your childhood?

Ask the adoptive parents to tell you about what they valued in their childhood. This not only helps you understand what’s important to them, it also helps you see what they value.  Ask adoptive parents about their values to ensure that they are similar to your own.

What are the most important things to you as a parent?

Everyone has a vision of what kind of parent they’d like to be. When you ask this question, you’ll get information about adoptive parents’ parenting values and about some of the experiences that they truly value in their own lives.

Tell me about who you are together.

Couple Wants to AdoptWhen you’re talking with adoptive parents who are a couple, you want to ask questions about who they are as a couple as well as who they are as parents. How did they meet? What do they enjoy doing together? How have they worked through hard times in their lives? This will tell you how they’ll work together as a parenting team.

Who is in your support network?

Every parent needs support. Whether adoptive parents have a wide circle of friends, many family members close by, or they have a religious or other support system that they turn to in times of need, you need to know who will support them and your child when challenging times arise.

What is your life like now, and what are your plans for the future?

This question helps you envision what your child’s life could look like. Do the parents work? Does one stay at home? Where do they live? Do they have other children? These factors will very much shape your child’s life.

How do you feel about open adoption?

If you’ve chosen open adoption and you have an idea of how you’d like it to proceed, ask the prospective adoptive parents questions to ensure that you’ll both be comfortable with what’s in your adoption plan.

When you’re asking questions, remember that your job is to find the parents who you like and trust.  You should choose parents who are willing to work with you as you create an adoption plan for your child. I can help answer your questions about adoption so that you’ll be better prepared to talk with prospective adoptive parents.

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