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Putting a Baby Up For Adoption

What is the process for putting a baby up for adoption?

The process for putting a baby up for adoption is free to expectant mothers.  Also, the process is relatively simple. This article focuses on a few frequently asked questions about how to put a baby up for adoption and making an adoption plan.  Some of these include:

  • Are adoption services free to expectant mothers?
  • Who will help me find a family to adopt my baby?
  • Do the adoptive parents pay the doctor’s bills?
  • Am I required to get counseling?
  • Who pays the attorney’s bills?
  • Can I meet the adoptive parents?

If you are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and need available options, this article is for you.

Are adoption services free to expectant mothers?

putting baby up for adoptionYes! All adoption information and services are absolutely free to expectant mothers.  Whether you decide to move forward the adoption or not, our services are completely free to you.  Also, my services include everything necessary to make the adoption happen–from finding a family to adopt your baby to placing your baby directly with that family.

I will personally help you find an adoptive family for your baby.  There are so many couples looking to adopt, and the couples I work with are loving, wonderful people.  I only work with adoptive families who I would feel comfortable placing a baby with.

Free services include helping find the perfect family for your baby.

birth mom and adoption mom with baby put up for adoptionOur services are free, and you decide which family will adopt your baby.  We work with expectant mothers all over the United States to help make an adoption plan.  Most importantly, you don’t have to be sure whether you want to put your baby up for adoption, but you can get the process started which will likely help you decide whether putting your baby up for adoption will work for you.  Here are the steps to choosing a family:

  • We will collect information from you, get to know you better, and really listen to what qualities you are looking for in an adopting family.
  • All of the adopting parents we work with have met with us in our office.
  • We have spent several hours getting to know them and their dreams for a family and the type of relationship they want with a birth mother.
  • Adoptive parents will have completed detailed background information and background checks.
  • Once we get to know everyone, we will present you with only those families who are a match for your criteria.

Finally, couples looking to adopt come in a variety of ages, races, religions, and lifestyles.  Most importantly, you will always choose who adopts your baby.

Will the baby’s father be involved?

Some women aren’t sure who the baby’s father is.  Furthermore, some women don’t want their baby’s father involved in the adoption process.  Whatever your situation or preference, we can help.  We will help you make a plan for your baby that works best for you.  Every case is different, but rest assured, we are experts at terminating baby’s father’s rights ethically and legally.  Certainly, you don’t have to be in contact with your baby’s father if you don’t want to.

Who pays the doctor’s bill?

In every state, the adopting family may pay all medical bills that aren’t covered by your medical insurance.  Private insurance doesn’t always cover all of your medical bills.   Sometimes your state’s insurance will cover what private insurance does not.  We can help you obtain insurance if you wish.  In most states, this medical assistance can happen prior to and after a woman has put a baby up for adoption. 

Is counseling required?

You will always decide if you want to talk with an experienced counselor.  We strongly believe that an adoption should be a win-win situation. When a woman is thinking about putting a baby up for adoption, we always encourage counseling.  Counseling can be helpful both prior to and after the arrival of the baby.  Also, counseling will help you understand the grieving process.  We will refer you to a counselor in your area.   Ideally, we will refer you to a counselor who is neutral as to the outcome of the adoption.  Counseling bills are paid by the adopting family through our trust account. There is no cost to you at all! 

Who pays for legal services necessary for the adoption?

The adopting family always pays all legal fees and costs.  The adoption will be completed at no cost to you.  Also, we will coordinate with the attorney or adoption social worker so you don’t have to.

(Read more about birth fathers and their rights)

Can I get financial help with other pregnancy-related expenses?

If you’re making a plan to put a baby up for adoption, California law allows adopting parents to help you with your pregnancy related expenses, this includes some living expenses.  However, some states do not allow for certain types of support during pregnancy and some don’t permit any assistance at all.  Call or email our office to find out if expense assistance is allowed in your state.

Can I meet the adoptive parents before the birth?

meeting adoptive parents before birthHow much contact you have with the family before and after the birth is entirely up to you.  Sometimes your ideas will change about how much contact you would like.  Many women develop a strong relationship with the adopting parents.  When this happens, they sometimes want more contact than they thought.  We will learn as much as we can about how you feel about contact before you decide to put your baby up for adoption.  We will only present you with families who have the same ideas about contact.

Usually, birth mothers meet adopting parents before the baby is born.  This helps to break the ice before everyone shows up at the hospital.  The birth mother and adopting family may also agree on contact after the baby is born.  Most birth mothers want photos and updates via email or text messaging.  Some birth mothers request visits once or twice per year after the baby is born.  We work closely with birth parents and adopting parents to make sure everyone’s expectations are clear and are met.

Contact After Adoption

You decide how much or how little contact you want with the adoptive family and your baby.  When you put a child up for adoption, it’s important to consider whether you want an open, closed, or a semi-open adoption.  For instance, some women don’t want any contact with the adoptive family.  Others want to receive pictures by text message or letters and pictures by email.  If you are willing to meet or speak with the adoptive parents, you will have an opportunity to discuss what you want moving forward.  Above all, consider what’s best for you and your baby.

Are You Ready to Get Started?

If you are ready to make an adoption plan for your baby, you can get started today.  Click this link to the adoption planning page.  When you get there, you will complete some background information about yourself and your baby.  In addition, you can provide information about the baby’s father and any questions or concerns you have.  Finally, you can also let us know what additional support you might need.  This includes emotional support, financial support, and more information about open and closed adoption.  Even more important, you aren’t obligated to choose adoption if you fill out this form.

We hope you found this article helpful as you explore adoption for your baby.  Our goal is to make the adoption process as simple and smooth for you as possible.  Also, our goal is to make sure you have all the information you need to make the best choices for you and your baby.  Read more about the adoption process here.  And you can also read more about me here!


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Are you pregnant and thinking about adoption for your baby? I can help. You can send me your questions about adoption or ask me to send you more information. Your communication with me is always confidential, and you’re never under any obligation to do an adoption. I’m here to help, not to pressure you or tell you what to do.


Megan Cohen, Birth Attorney

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