Are you wondering, “Is adoption right for me?” Adoption isn’t the right choice for everyone. Here are four important questions to ask yourself as you decide whether adoption is right for you and your baby.
Giving your baby up for adoption is your choice. You will live with that choice for the rest of your life and will think about it long after others have forgotten. Don’t choose adoption because your family or the baby’s father is pressuring you. Choose adoption because it’s the best option for you and your baby.
Visits with the baby are common in an open adoption. But if you’re choosing adoption because you want to see the baby many times throughout the year, then adoption may not be the right choice for you. Wanting many visits per year might mean that you really want to parent.
Many women feel a sense of relief when they choose the family who will adopt their baby. They get to know the family, build trust with them, and begin to understand how adoption is possible. Feelings of fear, sadness, and loss are typical, but a growing feeling of doubt may be a sign that adoption isn’t right for you.
When I gave my son up for adoption, I was comforted by the thought that my crisis was going to be a miracle for someone else. I was hopeful for his future and mine. If you have this same sense of comfort, even hope, when you think about adoption for you child, then adoption may be right for you!
Megan Cohen is one of the only adoption attorneys in the country who is also a birth mother. Admitted to the bar in January 2010, Megan began working for the firm that same year and took over as managing attorney in 2013. She has since received the Super Lawyers’ Northern California Rising Star award in 2013, 2014, and 2015. She graduated magna cum laude and first in her class from law school and worked 3 years as an advocate for victims of domestic violence and elder abuse.