I can help you find a family to adopt your baby. The families I work with are all people I know well and have met with personally. They all have had background checks and fingerprinting done. I only work with families that I would feel comfortable placing a baby with.
When you set out to find a family to adopt your baby, you really have to follow your heart and trust your instincts. Some women know immediately by just looking at photos and profiles of prospective parents. Others need to take more time to talk and get to know the adoptive parents. I believe that each of the families I work with will be amazing parents. I know that each will honor whatever type of adoption you want, whether it’s open or closed. In helping you find a family to adopt your baby, I promise I will:
The first step is to think about the type of family you want to adopt your baby. Do you want a couple that already has a child? Are you open to a same sex couple? How about a single parent? Prospective adoptive parents come in all shapes and sizes. Religious practices are really important to some women. Other women want a couple who are really active, or artistic, or home bodies. I always recommend that you keep your heart and mind open to possibilities. Sometimes the perfect couple aren’t what you imagined at all. Again, trust your instincts. Here are the steps to finding a family.
I always think it’s a good idea to meet the parents you have chosen to adopt your baby. Even if it’s the day before delivery. Sometimes meeting isn’t possible because of timing and distance. That doesn’t mean the adoption won’t work or that they aren’t the best choice.
Many women know immediately that the parents they chose are a great fit. Don’t be surprised if you know it too!
You might feel nervous about the first phone call or meeting with the parents. It can be helpful to have some questions ready when you talk. You can click here to see a list of potential questions. After you’ve spoken or met, ask yourself if you like and trust the adoptive parents. You can tell a lot about people in just the first few moments. So trust your instincts and ask yourself these questions:
If you aren’t sure about the answers to these questions, think about them when you talk with them again. Keep these points in mind as you get to know them better.
It’s really important that you and the adoptive parents have the same ideas about open or closed adoption. If you want an open adoption with them, be sure to talk with them about this specifically. A successful adoption lasts a lifetime. Your best chance for success is when everyone has the same expectations and these expectations are met. Here are some questions to ask the adoptive parents as you talk about the type of adoption you want:
As you look at prospective parents to adopt your baby, I will be there with you every step of the way. I am a birth mother, and I know how stressful this time can be. (Read my story here.) I will answer questions, offer advice, and be there to just listen. My goal is always to make sure that you aren’t alone in this process. It’s most important to me that you love the family you choose to adopt your baby. I will be there to make sure you feel confident that you chose the very best parents for your baby.
You can send me your questions about adoption or ask me to send you more information. Your communication with me is always confidential, and you’re never under any obligation to do an adoption. I’m here to help, not to pressure you or tell you what to do.
Megan Cohen is one of the only adoption attorneys in the country who is also a birth mother. (Click here to read her story.) Megan has received the Super Lawyers’ Rising Star award every year since 2013. She graduated magna cum laude and first in her class from law school all while she worked as an advocate for victims of domestic violence and elder abuse.