As a birth mother and adoption attorney, I have a wealth of experience and information about adoption. Please send me your questions and I’ll do my best to answer it. I’m always a resource for adoptive families and birth mothers, so don’t hesitate to reach out.

Hiding an unplanned pregnancy

  Dear Megan, I don’t know how my friends and family (mom especially) don’t see that I’m pregnant.  I mean, yeah, I do try to hide it, but it’s getting almost impossible to hide.  I’ve never had an unplanned pregnancy before so I’m not sure what to expect.  Still, I’m surprised no one has said…

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Will anyone want to adopt my baby with special needs?

When you’re thinking about adoption, you can feel a lot of uncertainty about the future. Questions run through your mind. How will I find adoptive parents? What will my child’s future hold? Sometimes the questions are more specific: I want to put my baby up for adoption, but she has special needs. Whether you have a new…

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How to support grandparents during adoption

  Dear Megan, I want to know how to support grandparents in adoption.  I am trying to help my friend who just found out her youngest daughter had a baby shortly before she moved back home.  She put the baby up for adoption in an open adoption.  How do I help this grandmother?  How do…

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Breastfeeding and adoption

  Dear Megan, My baby is due in three months, and I love the couple I have picked to adopt her.  But now all the uncomfortable conversations are happening.  I want to make sure I’m doing what’s best for my baby, not for me and the adoptive parents.  Is it bad or not helpful for…

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Post-adoption guilt

  Dear Megan, I’m feeling guilty.  I was contacted by my son who I gave up 49 years ago.  He found me because adoption records are now open in my state.  In his email he says he had a great upbringing, wonderful parents, and has a great job and partner.  I was 19 and still…

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Struggling post adoption and feeling like the odd man out

  Dear Megan, I am struggling with my emotions and searching for help as to what to do after meeting my daughter and her adoptive parents.  So far all of our visits have been wonderful, but after this last one, something changed in  me.  I have felt the need to step back because my heart…

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Can birth parents change their minds?

  Dear Megan, Hi, I’m a birth mom, giving my baby up for adoption, and I’ve accepted financial assistance from the agency.  I thought I had my mind made up a couple months ago, but now I’m not so sure.  My baby’s kicks are getting stronger, and now I can feel my self starting to…

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“I think my closed adoption just cracked open”

  Dear Megan, I gave a baby up for adoption many years ago when I was raped at 18.  It was a closed adoption.  I wanted to give my child a better life and it felt like the best thing to do.  Recently my mom did DNA testing.  She was contacted by someone who I…

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“Is my 15 year old son on the hook for child support?”

  Dear Megan, My teenage son and his teenage girlfriend are having a baby and we don’t know if she can sue him for child support.  It was not planned as they are both in school and depend on us, their parents.  My son wants to give the baby up for adoption but his girlfriend…

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Setting boundaries with your birth daughter

  Dear Megan, How do I set boundaries with my birth daughter?  I’ve been reunited with my birth daughter since she turned 18, and now she’s nearly 30.  We’ve had many close times and many distant times over the years.  She is currently going through a very difficult time in her life and has recently…

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“My mom gave up a baby before I was born”

  Dear Megan, I just found out yesterday that my mom gave up a baby 6 years before I was born. I am 20. Mom was raped and gave the baby up, and everyone in my family had known about this and never told us. I have been in shock the first two days of…

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“My friend is having too much contact with her baby”

  Dear Megan, A friend from church might be having too much contact with her baby.  She made an adoption plan for her daughter who was born a couple months ago.  She is struggling, hanging by a thread, she says.  We had lunch yesterday, and she told me the adoptive family texts her pictures all…

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