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Considering Doing Adoption Without An Agency? There Are Risks.

An adoption is a life-changing event for three parties: the child, the birth parents, and the adoptive parents. The process of creating an adoption plan is one that will shape the rest of an adopted child’s life, so it’s necessary to be thoughtful about your expectations. While you can certainly find inexpensive do-it-yourself adoption information online, it’s important to ensure that you have all of your legal documents in order.


There are risks involved if you choose to do an adoption on your own.

Adoption On Your Own or With Help?

You may already have a family who would like to adopt your child. This family may even be part of your own family. Some birth parents have friends who would love to adopt, while others choose families they find online, families who share the same values as the birth family. Other birth parents choose to work with an agency or a law firm to find adoptive parents.

Adoption is a Legal Process

Adoption involves many emotions. It involves a lot of planning, from decisions about who will be in the delivery room to decisions about how much contact you would like to have with your child’s adoptive family after the adoption has been completed.

Adoption is also a legal process. You must sign documents shortly after your baby is born, and the adoptive family must then work to finalize the adoption after they take the baby home. If you’re seeking an adoption and you already know a family who is interested in adopting your baby, it can be tempting to look into ways to do an adoption on your own. However, you must make sure that all of your legal forms and processes have been completed, or the adoption will not be legal. This could cause future problems for you, the adoptive parents, and the child.

Adoption Agencies and Law Firms Provide Support

In addition to helping you with the legal process of adoption, adoption agencies and law firms can also provide you with other assistance. Unlike trying to do this on your own, it’s a comfort to have a seasoned adoption professional by your side when your pregnant and worried. These adoption professionals can talk to you about the differences between open and closed adoption, work with you to create an adoption plan, ensure that you have medical and emotional support during your pregnancy, and work on the legal aspects of the adoption.

While there are attorney fees when you pursue adoption through a legal firm, these fees are the responsibility of the adoptive parents. You will not be responsible for these adoption legal costs.

When you are investigating the possibility of adoption, it’s normal to look at many different options. You might look at the benefits of open adoption, and you might consider whether you’d like to breastfeed your child in the delivery room. There will be many choices for you to make as you move through the adoption process. One choice that’s easy to make is the decision to have a professional by your side. Not only will this ensure that you follow all necessary legal procedures, you’ll also gain an advocate who can help you through this challenging time in your life.

If you’re considering adoption for your baby, Family Formation welcomes your questions:

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Are you pregnant and thinking about adoption for your baby? I can help. You can send me your questions about adoption or ask me to send you more information. Your communication with me is always confidential, and you’re never under any obligation to do an adoption. I’m here to help, not to pressure you or tell you what to do.


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