As a birth mother and adoption attorney, I have a wealth of experience and information about adoption. Please send me your questions and I’ll do my best to answer it. I’m always a resource for adoptive families and birth mothers, so don’t hesitate to reach out.

Finding Birth Parents

Do you want to find birth parents? Help With Adoption is now providing search services to adoptees looking for their birth parents. Our birth parent search philosophy We believe that adoptees have a right to know, if they wish, the identities of their biological family members. Many adoptees just want the information and once it’s […]

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What gift should I bring to my reunion with my birth son?

Here are some gift ideas for the child that was adopted. Dear Megan, I am meeting my son I gave up for adoption 22 years ago.  We have been in touch over the past years on Facebook and by texting.  His bio dad and I are meeting him in person for the first time this […]

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Can I be brutally honest with the child I put up for adoption?

You can be honest with the child you put up for adoption. Dear Megan,   I put my child up for adoption in 2005 when I was in a rough spot.  In the past two years I’ve gotten back on track.  I recently received an update from my child’s parents.  They said I could write and […]

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Does my medical history matter after I place a child for adoption?

A birth mother’s medical history is important, before and after the adoption. If you’re considering putting up a child for adoption, you have likely looked at open adoption. While families often had closed adoptions in the past and children may not have known they were adopted. Today open adoption is very common. In an open […]

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Why do birth parents lose touch with their adopted children?

There are many reasons why birth parents lose touch with their adopted child.  Some of these might surprise you. Birth Parents don’t want to interfere with their child’s new family unit Many birth parents lose touch with their adopted child intentionally.  In many cases this is because they don’t want to interfere with the family.  […]

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Second thoughts about adoption. Did I make a mistake?

  Dear Megan, I am having second thoughts about adoption.  I gave my baby up for adoption over the weekend, and she is now home with her adoptive parents and I feel overwhelmed.  The adoptive parents are amazing.   Adoption feels like the right thing in my situation.  But I can’t stop crying.  I miss my […]

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How do I set boundaries with my birth daughter?

  Dear Megan, How do I set boundaries with my birth daughter?  I’ve been reunited with my birth daughter since she turned 18, and now she’s nearly 30.  We’ve had many close times and many distant times over the years.  She is currently going through a very difficult time in her life and has recently […]

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Is my friend having too much contact with her baby?

Contact after adoption can be really healthy for all involved. Dear Megan, A friend from church might be having too much contact with her baby.  She made an adoption plan for her daughter who was born a couple months ago.  She is struggling, hanging by a thread, she says.  We had lunch yesterday, and she […]

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Do you have advice for when I meet my adopted child?

Meeting your adopted child can be an amazing experience.  Here’s how to prepare. Dear Megan, I gave my daughter up for adoption almost thirteen years ago and she is now ready to meet.  I have no clue how to respond to her questions.  Please help.  I am so scared I might mess this all up.  […]

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My 8 year old is outing me as a birth mother, what do I tell him?

Kids say the darnedest things.  Here’s some adoption advice about privacy. Hello, I am seeking adoption advice about privacy. When I was 20 I gave my daughter up for adoption at birth; she will be 16 this year. Since then I have completed college, married and had a son, who is 8. I have always […]

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Will my kids’ perception of me change?

Are you ready to talk with your kids about their adopted sibling? Here’s a great story and my response. Dear Megan, I placed my son for adoption over 20 years ago. We met this year, and other than the birth of my two daughters many years later, this has been the most amazing experience of […]

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I’m happy to answer your questions, support you, and help you understand what putting your baby up for adoption means and how it works. You’re never obligated to continue, and I will never pressure you to make any decision that doesn’t feel right for you and your baby.

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