As a birth mother and adoption attorney, I have a wealth of experience and information about adoption. Please send me your questions and I’ll do my best to answer it. I’m always a resource for adoptive families and birth mothers, so don’t hesitate to reach out.

Is it bad for me to breastfeed my baby at the hospital?

Breastfeeding your baby to be adopted baby might make it harder to do the placement. Dear Megan, My baby is due in three months, and I love the couple I have picked to adopt her.  But now all the uncomfortable conversations are happening.  I want to make sure I’m doing what’s best for my baby,…

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Why do I feel so guilty almost 50 years later?

Post adoption guilt is common and really complicated. Dear Megan, I’m feeling guilty.  My son who I gave up 49 years ago contacted me.  He found me because adoption records are now open in my state.  In his email he says he had a great upbringing, wonderful parents, and has a great job and partner. …

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How do I cope with feeling like the odd man out?

Struggling post adoption, even 20 years later, is normal. Dear Megan, I am struggling with my emotions and searching for help as to what to do after meeting my daughter and her adoptive parents.  So far all of our visits have been wonderful, but after this last one, something changed in  me.  I have felt…

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Can birth parents change their minds?

Can birth parents change their mind?  In some instances, yes. Dear Megan, Hi, I’m a birth mom, giving my baby up for adoption, and I’ve accepted financial assistance from the agency.  I need to know, can birth parents change their mind? I thought I had my mind made up a couple months ago, but now…

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Did my closed adoption just crack open?

It can be really stressful for birth parents when a closed adoption is exposed. Dear Megan, I gave a baby up for adoption many years ago when I was raped at 18.  It was a closed adoption.  I wanted to give my child a better life and it felt like the best thing to do. …

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Is my 15 year old son on the hook for child support?

Questions and answers about minors and child support. Dear Megan, My teenage son and his teenage girlfriend are having a baby and we don’t know if she can sue him for child support.  It was not planned as they are both in school and depend on us, their parents.  My son wants to give the…

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How do I set boundaries with my birth daughter?

  Dear Megan, How do I set boundaries with my birth daughter?  I’ve been reunited with my birth daughter since she turned 18, and now she’s nearly 30.  We’ve had many close times and many distant times over the years.  She is currently going through a very difficult time in her life and has recently…

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Is my friend having too much contact with her baby?

Contact after adoption can be really healthy for all involved. Dear Megan, A friend from church might be having too much contact with her baby.  She made an adoption plan for her daughter who was born a couple months ago.  She is struggling, hanging by a thread, she says.  We had lunch yesterday, and she…

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Do you have advice for when I meet my adopted child?

Meeting your adopted child can be an amazing experience.  Here’s how to prepare. Dear Megan, I gave my daughter up for adoption almost thirteen years ago and she is now ready to meet.  I have no clue how to respond to her questions.  Please help.  I am so scared I might mess this all up. …

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My 8 year old is outing me as a birth mother, what do I tell him?

Kids say the darnedest things.  Here’s some adoption advice about privacy. Hello, I am seeking adoption advice about privacy. When I was 20 I gave my daughter up for adoption at birth; she will be 16 this year. Since then I have completed college, married and had a son, who is 8. I have always…

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Will my kids’ perception of me change?

Are you ready to talk with your kids about their adopted sibling? Here’s a great story and my response. Dear Megan, I placed my son for adoption over 20 years ago. We met this year, and other than the birth of my two daughters many years later, this has been the most amazing experience of…

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