As a birth mother and adoption attorney, I have a wealth of experience and information about adoption. Please send me your questions and I’ll do my best to answer it. I’m always a resource for adoptive families and birth mothers, so don’t hesitate to reach out.

Adoption vs. abandoning your baby at the hospital

There are benefits of adoption vs. abandoning your baby at the hospital. Discovering you’re pregnant when you aren’t yet ready for parenthood can be scary.  Sometimes abandoning a baby feels safest.  However, adoption may be a better option for you.  In California, when a woman feels she’s not ready to parents, she can surrender the…

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How do I tell my parents I’m putting my baby up for adoption?

Do you need help how to tell your parents you’re putting your baby up for adoption?  I can help! When you’re pregnant and considering adoption, you’re thinking about your future and the future of your child. However, there are others to consider as well. At some point during your pregnancy, you’ll likely let your own parents…

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Second thoughts about adoption. Did I make a mistake?

  Dear Megan, I am having second thoughts about adoption.  I gave my baby up for adoption over the weekend, and she is now home with her adoptive parents and I feel overwhelmed.  The adoptive parents are amazing.   Adoption feels like the right thing in my situation.  But I can’t stop crying.  I miss my…

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Should I tell my family about my adoption plan?

For many women, it’s important to tell family about the adoption plan.  Once you’ve made the decision to put your child up for adoption, you will want to consider how to talk with family and friends about your adoption plan.  The news will be difficult to share and difficult to hear, no matter what.  Having…

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How do you hide an unplanned pregnancy?

You may not be able to hide an unplanned pregnancy–and you may not want to. Dear Megan, I don’t know how my friends and family (mom especially) don’t see that I’m pregnant.  I mean, yeah, I do try to hide it, but it’s getting almost impossible to hide.  I’ve never had an unplanned pregnancy before…

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My child is putting up a baby for adoption-what do I do?

It’s always difficult to hear the emotional reaction in parents’ emails when they tell me their daughter is putting up a baby for adoption. Many parents support their daughter’s adoption plans and others feel lost and confused. It’s so difficult to watch your child suffer.  Also, it’s difficult for parents of birth mothers to be…

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Will anyone want to adopt my baby with special needs?

Some expectant mothers worry that their baby will have special needs, and that adoption for a baby with special needs isn’t an option.  Usually this is not true.  Depending on the nature of the special needs, there are always adoptive parents who would love to adopt a baby with special needs. When you’re thinking about…

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How do I support a grandparent in adoption?

Dear Megan, I want to know how to support grandparents in adoption.  I am trying to help my friend who just found out her youngest daughter had a baby shortly before she moved back home.  She put the baby up for adoption in an open adoption.  How do I help this grandmother?  How do I…

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Is it bad for me to breastfeed my baby at the hospital?

Breastfeeding your baby to be adopted baby might make it harder to do the placement. Dear Megan, My baby is due in three months, and I love the couple I have picked to adopt her.  But now all the uncomfortable conversations are happening.  I want to make sure I’m doing what’s best for my baby,…

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Why do I feel so guilty almost 50 years later?

Post adoption guilt is common and really complicated. Dear Megan, I’m feeling guilty.  My son who I gave up 49 years ago contacted me.  He found me because adoption records are now open in my state.  In his email he says he had a great upbringing, wonderful parents, and has a great job and partner. …

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How do I cope with feeling like the odd man out?

Struggling post adoption, even 20 years later, is normal. Dear Megan, I am struggling with my emotions and searching for help as to what to do after meeting my daughter and her adoptive parents.  So far all of our visits have been wonderful, but after this last one, something changed in  me.  I have felt…

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I’m happy to answer your questions, support you, and help you understand what putting your baby up for adoption means and how it works. You’re never obligated to continue, and I will never pressure you to make any decision that doesn’t feel right for you and your baby.

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