Are you wondering, “Is adoption right for me?” Adoption isn’t the right choice for everyone. Here are four important questions to ask yourself as you decide whether adoption is right for you and your baby.
Is someone pressuring you to give your baby up for adoption?
Giving your baby up for adoption is your choice. You will live with that choice for the rest of your life and will think about it long after others have forgotten. Don’t choose adoption because your family or the baby’s father is pressuring you. Choose adoption because it’s the best option for you and your baby.
Do you want an open adoption that includes multiple visits per year?
Visits with the baby are common in an open adoption. But if you’re choosing adoption because you want to see the baby many times throughout the year, then adoption may not be the right choice for you. Wanting many visits per year might mean that you really want to parent.
Have you found a family to adopt your baby and still feel uncertain?
Many women feel a sense of relief when they choose the family who will adopt their baby. They get to know the family, build trust with them, and begin to understand how adoption is possible. Feelings of fear, sadness, and loss are typical, but a growing feeling of doubt may be a sign that adoption isn’t right for you.
Do you feel hopeful at the possibility of helping another couple have a family?
When I gave my son up for adoption, I was comforted by the thought that my crisis was going to be a miracle for someone else. I was hopeful for his future and mine. If you have this same sense of comfort, even hope, when you think about adoption for you child, then adoption may be right for you!
Are you pregnant and thinking about adoption for your baby? I can help. You can send me your questions about adoption or ask me to send you more information. Your communication with me is always confidential, and you’re never under any obligation to do an adoption. I’m here to help, not to pressure you or tell you what to do.